NOTE: I’ve reposted this important article written by my wife that was originally published at a former website on 8-27-2017. Shocked How many of you were as shocked as I was by Lysa TerKeurst’s blog post last week? I can raise my hand high in response. I was more than shocked. But not because Lysa announced she was divorcing her husband of almost twenty-five years because of repeated infidelity and substance abuse. But because her writing was so full of hurt, devastation, nu
Stay Salty My Friend I love telling people to, “Stay Salty.” I think most of the time they mistake it for being sassy, but that’s kinda like 180 degrees opposite of what God meant. Jesus used this illustration because salt was vital for preserving the good in food. Maybe today, it would be translated as “Stay Frosty or Frigid,” but again, not the same meaning. Salt and Light “You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? I
Stuck In My Mind I think that slogan was once a car’s commercial theme song. I can hear it in the back of my mind as I wright this. But maybe that’s the point of what I’m about to share. Our society has been commercially inundated for decades. We’re driven by media, movies and myth. Escaping into fantasy has become our normal life. Living vicariously through our favorite actors, athletes and television personalities has kinda taken the place of being the individual we were me
Hear All About It The message is loud and clear; “Our sins are better than your sins.” The absolution of sin by comparison resonates within Christian culture. Whether shouting behind stabbing fingers, or covered whispers between believers, we’ve placated ourselves with a false reality that homosexual sins are worse that our little indiscretions. Of course, that’s incorrect, so how do we stop focusing on the splinter in our neighbor’s eye, and deal with the plank in our own? S
YOUR NEXT STEP
Procrastination is sometimes just the fear of taking the next step. You think you’re stuck until you realize you just haven’t made the decision to move. The steps of a man are established by the LORD, when he delights in his way.
Jeff Walthers Please Share With a Brother #ReligionandSpirituality #Men #manhood #marriage #Faith #HolySpirit #God #mensministry #Jesus #Devotional
God’s Words For Your New Year: Purposeful and Intentional 2018 was full of blessings and lessons. We’re excited to see what these next 365 days have in store. One thing I know for certain is that God is in control. Leah & I press into this reality daily, and while it takes a constant pursuit, the tangible results are a real, loving relationship with Him. For me, that relationship serves as a mirror for how I am to love and serve my wife. Marriage is God’s covenant creation af
10 Days of 31 Days: Going Too Far We’ve been allowing the puppy the freedom to roam throughout the house of late. Today, we taught him to walk up the stairs and then encouraged him to walk back down the stairs. He was naturally hesitant and a little frightened, but with some encouragement he made his way up and down the stairs and up and down the stairs and up and down the stairs. He was well beyond his kennel and the area that he felt most safe within. As time went by we not
No, not the gray hair or the lines etched strategically across my weathered face. What I finally see is what’s no longer there. It’s Not There The hard, stone-faced expression that held hollow eyes that had seen too much. Or the worried frown from a quarter century of digesting everyone else’s trauma without healing from my own. I don’t see the rigidity in my battered frame from a life of hypervigilance, hard physical abuse through specialized training or living on a few hour
3 of 31 Days: Maybe Doc Was Wrong Today was a grinder. Wait, not that kinda grinding. It was about sitting my butt down and getting work accomplished. It’s as exhausting as it is exhilarating. Focus Working from home or in your car ot at the local Panera Bread cafe takes discipline. Somehow Leah can write while watching movies, scratching the dog and playing Facebook games. If I see a leaf fall I’m done for. So we converted one of the guest bedrooms into an office. I love it.
Men, Sex & Marriage This video looks at the role of sex in a man’s life as it was intended to be enjoyed as God’s creation. Has sexual sin trapped you the darkness of pain, shame or regret? The light of Christ will set the captive free!!! Let’s look at key scripture, and you tell me what you think God is trying to tell us. The sanctity of marriage is affirmed in Hebrews with a very straight forward and powerful word about sex and sin. “Marriage is to be honored by all, and hu
Dating Your Spouse: Blue Marriage: Remember when you’d walk across glass to get a glimpse of your sweetie? What happened? Okay, don’t ever forget what it was that drew you together. Now, do that more often. Here are just a few of the benefits of being in Love #1. Physical Changes – Love has physiological effects on your body. Chemical levels such as dopamine, testosterone, norepinephrine, histocompatibility complex (MHC), and Pheromones shift. These are all positive benefits.
Sex In Marriage: Blue Marriage God’s design for sex is a lifetime of pleasure and delight. Sex should be something we enjoy and look forward to in marriage. In a healthy relationship, there is effort and forethought given towards sex to make it fun and pleasurable. However, Satan’s ultimate goal is that we will be ashamed of our sexuality so that we won’t talk about sex with our spouse. The good news is, you don’t have to live a life full of frustration, shame and rejection.
The New News Lysa Terkeurst, founder of the Proverbs 31 Ministry has etched her life and testimony into the lives of millions of woman around the world. A witness to faithfulness, perseverance, and a heart for sharing God’s love, her outreach for encouraging other women grew into a global ministry of extolling the virtues of a Godly woman. In 2017, the mystical bubble created by unrealistic public expectation burst, when Lysa, a mere mortal, bravely announced to the world she
The Warrior’s Marriage: Our 4 Deepest Needs 1. Acceptance – “I am loved and accepted for who I am.” (Romans 8:35-39)
• Most people love us based on what they don’t know. God is the only one who
knows your every thought and will always love you no matter what. 2. Identity – “I am special, unique and significant.” (Psalm 13)
• God planned every day of your life before you were born. He is the only one who
knows why you were created. 3. Security – “I am safe and secure from
NOTE: My wife and I take about a month each summer for travel. We’ve been crossing the country on our motorcycle, and absolutely love the time together. This travel blog is a combination of days that we alternate in writing. We say it’s so each get the chance to share their “truth,” as we experience each day. It gets a little “stretched” after hundreds of hot highway miles, but they’re always basically honest! #HOGWild18 Day 1. An Impromptu Start Well, it’s here! The official
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 Priorities must be proven in real terms, not just words. • Four ways we prove priorities: 1. Sacrifice – “I will give this up for you.” 2. Time – “I will spend quality time with you.” 3. Energy – “I will meet your needs.” 4. Attitude – “I want to be with you.” Tune in LIVE each Monday at 7:00pm (cst) at Brick Breakers Much Love/Much Respect,
Scott Let’s connect on
Men, Married, getting married, hope to be married? God created us to desire connection. When it comes to intimacy, we men can find ourselves in a fix without realizing what happened. Marriage On The Rock is bible-based information that has literally helped millions of people worldwide. Usually taught to couples, I wanted to gear this course created by MarriageToday to men. Each Monday, I’m going Live on Brick Breakers starting May 14th at 7:00pm (CST.) There is no cost or sig
Profiles In Personal Pain: Which One Are You and How Do You Manage It? What’s really eating away at you? Are regrets consuming your thoughts so you’re forced to shut them down? Can you sit in silence without a mental movie flooding your brain and demanding that you fill the quiet? You’re not alone. The pain we carry from our past is tucked away and always available to muck up our lives or turn gold star moments into brown star regrets. We allow pain, shame and regret to consu
Several months back I undertook an overhaul of our Facebook presence atMarriage Matters. Trying to tap into that perfect stream of increased engagement while maintaining the vision placed on our hearts was a challenge. But what wasn’t a challenge is giving you a free gift. It saved our marriage and millions of others. Don’t worry, it’s waiting for you at the end of this piece. God bless you! SMATGW Sure, we could follow the traditional social media models by boosting posts, p
God’s Covenant Marriage: This Is Not A Civil Contract Covenant vs. Contract Covenants are different than contracts. DIFFERENCES: – A covenant is a binding obligation between you, your spouse, and God. It’s not meant to be broken. Covenants are not meant to dissolve because you fell out of love with your spouse. – Contract INCLUDES force action. – The covenant is not forced but is a choice willingly entered into out of selfless love and personal commitment. – Contract usually