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Nov 2, 2020
3 min

Do You Linger?

Do You? For years as I suffered from an unresolved life of past personal pain, it was impossible to simply sit alone with my thoughts. Without chaotic distractions my mind would begin to rumble before churning into full-blown danger mode. My remedy was to stay distracted with other distracting thoughts, activities or people. To put it redundantly, it was distracting. Fleeing Through the years I trained as an endurance athlete, I was told most do it to flee from something. I t

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Scott Silverii

Jun 9, 2020
4 min

Father’s Day Can Be A Tough One

Stunned Leah and I were having supper with a couple from church this week and as it was the first time we’d all spent time together, we shared our testimonies and bits and pieces from our pasts. The man shared that he had enjoyed an incredibly loving relationship with his dad all the way from childhood until the day he had passed away. I was kinda stunned and didn’t really know how to respond to that. I think I said something like, “That’s rare.” He nodded, and agreed. I felt

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Men’s Workshop: First on Facebook Featuring Twenty Top Influencers

Scott Silverii

Feb 20, 2020
1 min

Men’s Workshop: First on Facebook Featuring Twenty Top Influencers

I wanted to go but I just didn’t have the time or the money. That’s been the story most of my adult life, so what did I do? I did something about it. It’s hard for men to take off of work and bear the burden of traveling to workshops focused on them. I reached out to my closest and most trusted brothers in Christ and asked them to join me bringing the best men’s workshop directly to you. April 6 and 7, 2020, we’re hosting over 20 top influencers from pastors to firefighters.

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From Social Ghost to Holy Ghost: Surviving Police Retirement

Scott Silverii

Oct 12, 2019
4 min

From Social Ghost to Holy Ghost: Surviving Police Retirement

Casper Ghost was the word I once used to describe myself. After decades of serving the public and being at the core of making sense out of chaos, I’d become a social ghost. A non-factor in making a daily difference in people’s lives. We get this unrealistic image of what retirement is supposed to look like, and once we arrive, it’s like making hotel reservations at some scam vacation site. This is especially true for cops who mash their identity to what they do, as opposed to

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Anniversaries Of Trauma: How Are You Marking Tragedy?

Scott Silverii

Sep 4, 2019
4 min

Anniversaries Of Trauma: How Are You Marking Tragedy?

Shut Off In the spirit of full disclosure, I’m writing this behind closed doors in my office on a beautiful Saturday afternoon while my wife and kids go about a day without me in it. It’s not because anyone is angry with each other. My wife knows and is fully aware of why I’ve once again isolated myself in the office. I woke up and realized why it was that I’d been near impossible all week. Even up to the night before, my wife said some of the things I had said were “strange”

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Scott Silverii

May 29, 2019
5 min

Why Sitting In Church Is Bad For Men

We Have A Crisis Look around your church on any given service and the odds are you’ll see more women and kids than you will men. Why? Because men have left the building. And therein lies the problem. Church has become about the building, not the body. Although today’s mega-churches are pulling in thousands of people every week, fewer and fewer of them are men. The building as a holy place where holy people gather to act holy once a week isn’t keeping men in the seats. Honestl

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Profiles In Personal Pain: Which One Are You?

Scott Silverii

May 22, 2019
4 min

Profiles In Personal Pain: Which One Are You?

What’s really eating away at you? Are regrets consuming your thoughts so you’re forced to shut them down? Can you sit in silence without a mental movie flooding your brain and demanding that you fill the quiet? You’re not alone. The pain we carry from our past is tucked away and always available to muck up our lives or turn gold star moments into brown star regrets. Reality of Pain We allow pain, shame and regret to consume us with stress over how to cope with it. Unfortunate

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The Bro Code Series Celebrates Alpha Manhood’s Building The Better Man

Scott Silverii

Apr 1, 2019
2 min

The Bro Code Series Celebrates Alpha Manhood’s Building The Better Man

Too Late? Do you think it’s ever too late to change? Of course I understand the longer we wait, the harder it is to change. When we factor in the man card, it can get even more difficult to push improvement. The Bro Code Series isn’t about getting a ripped six-pack, or rippling biceps for the beach. This is about building the better man according to God’s design. I know it’s easier to get men to read a workout book than it is to read about looking at our life in a mirror. Nev

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Scott Silverii

Oct 30, 2018
2 min

25 Days of 31: Broken and Blue

25 Days of 31: Broken and Blue “How long does it take you to write a book?” I’ve been asked that often. My reply for a full-length novel is about 30 days for the first rough draft. Lifetime This book, Broken and Blue has taken about 30 years. No, not because I wrote it slow, but because it’s the story of most of my life. I don’t mean the chronological account, but the parts that affected me most – the good and the bad. Police work takes a heavy toll, but it’s often the life

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Breaking The Chains Of Past Pain | Five Stones

Scott Silverii

Oct 24, 2018
1 min

Breaking The Chains Of Past Pain | Five Stones

I’m thankful to be a part of Five Stones University’s online self-improvement course development. I was able to design several courses just for men. The first two are 30-day challenges that lead brothers along a daily walk toward restoration. This new course, Breaking The Chains Of Past Pain was created using God’s words of instruction and encouragement as a foundation for your life. It’s very personal, as I also share so many difficulties I endured while struggling with the

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Sex Addiction: Blue Lights in a Red Light District

Scott Silverii

Jan 18, 2018
1 min

Sex Addiction: Blue Lights in a Red Light District

Anytime we begin to discuss pain or addiction in the public square, people get real quiet. This article that I wrote helped shake things up. Posted on 01-16-18 in Law Enforcement Today I Didn’t Know It was true 30 years ago and it’s still true today. The first time I was told, “Your badge will get you sex (he used the “p” word), and sex will get your badge,” was in the police academy. I kinda smiled because honestly, I didn’t have a clue what the sergeant meant. I wasn’t naïv

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Scott Silverii

Jan 11, 2018
7 min

Why Men Cheat: Why We Shouldn’t

A few years ago while I was still serving as Chief of Police, a sergeant entered my office. He folded himself into a leather chair and looked at me with his chin twisted sideways and his furrowed brow fixed across my desk. He asked a simple question. “Why do cops cheat?” I’d never been asked that before. I replied, “It’s the culture.” It was the best I could offer. He left unfulfilled, and since then I wondered, why not only cops, but why do men cheat. Medicating The first ti

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